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Embracing Accountability

Embracing accountability for our thoughts empowers us to avoid projecting our unresolved issues onto others.

We all grapple with our own internal battles, harbouring traits or tendencies we may not readily accept within ourselves. Acknowledging our imperfections and recognising the natural ebb and flow of unpleasant thoughts, desires, or feelings is crucial. However, failing to confront these aspects of ourselves can lead us to attribute them to others, labelling them as angry, jealous, or insecure, in a psychological phenomenon that is known as projection.

Enduring projections from others can be bewildering and exasperating, especially when we know we’re not the source of their distress. Even those self-aware individuals may find themselves unexpectedly targeted by projections, especially in delicate situations. For instance, feeling financially insecure might prompt one to perceive a friend as overly extravagant, or a personal fitness goal might lead to preaching about exercise benefits to everyone.

While avoiding those prone to projecting may seem like a solution, it’s not always feasible. Instead, we can deflect some projections through mindfulness and meditation. In moments of projection, we may need to mentally fortify ourselves, reminding ourselves that someone else’s issues are not ours to carry. Though reacting calmly when faced with projection is challenging, it’s essential to address unreasonable and disrespectful behaviour assertively. Just as we dislike being burdened by others’ projections, we should also refrain from unloading our own frustrations onto them. By taking ownership of our thoughts and emotions, we mitigate the tendency to project our unresolved issues onto others. By understanding and owning their projections, individuals can develop a more authentic sense of self and engage more authentically with the world around them.

Louise is a wellness therapist, embodiment coach, clinical hypnotherapist, teacher of meditation and teacher of the Realisation Process (RP). For further information or to book a treatment phone Louise on 01702 714968 or contact us to book an appointment.

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